My fiance asked me to pay off his debt(21k), i said no,now hes treating me funny like im cheap?
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Were you wrong to say no? I'll answer that as soon as you tell me this, do you have "sucker" written on your forehead?
Now I realise you might love this man and that's made you potentially blind to whatever faults he might have, but you really need to take an objective look at what's going on here.
Personally I'd tell him to take a hike, pack your bags and find yourself a man that can treat you right. I realise that's a little harsh but let's look at the facts here:
1) He's got a huge debt to pay off.
2) He cheated on his first wife.
3) He was stupid enough to give his account to his ex.
4) He spent way too much money on his gf.
5) His gf even dumped his *.
Seriously, this is the man you want to marry?
there's no reason for you to pay off his debt...he sounds like a loser anyway..
Obviously, you know something is wrong in this relationship. You owe him nothing.
Run baby run.just watch, he will leave you for the next woman who will give him money..
Wow girl. Look at what he has done to at least two other women. This guy is a user and will use you too.
I would not only not pay his debt, I would be trading him in for a better BF.
You're saying you are dating a man who divorced his wife b/c he was cheating on her and NOW (assuming after all this went down) he's asking you to marry him? Go ahead and pay off the debt b/c it sounds like you're not prone to making wise decisions.
tell the old boy to take a long walk off a short pier
YOU GO GIRL!
NO is the right answer.and considering his track record you may want to say NO to marriage, too.
of course not!
he's just after your money knowing you have more than him.
before you go any further..think over and over,,,there's a lot of man out there, he just wanna use you. Run before your money run out to him. HE IS A LOSER AND I'M PRETTY SURE YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN HIM. PLS. NO HAND OUTS FOR HIM.
If he treats you as if you're cheap just because he won't take responsibility for his own debt, then I strongly believe he is not mature enough to handle real difficult financial issues that comes with marriage such as housing, children, and retirement.
Also, understand that if he will be your husband, his debt becomes your debt upon marriage (in most states). Someone who is this frivolous with money needs to reassert his financial independence before entering into an interdependent relationship. Ask yourself: if I pay, what will he have learned from this? Will he always look to you to bail him out on financial difficulties? Has he gotten better with managing his finances? Is he marrying you because you have the ability to support him?
Your convictions and actions are strong and correct. I think it's time to have that long talk with him about "Where is this going?"
Good for you! It's his debt, it should be his responsiblity. Time to find out whether he'll financially sink the marriage.
I love it when people with credit card debt call me cheap.
He need to change his behaviors, or he'll always have debt.
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