Work problem- how to use business language (details)?
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Wow almost the same thing happened to me. Whatever you do DON'T GET EMOTIONAL OR CRY. Stay very professional. Practice at home or with someone you trust with what to say. Make up situations you think may come up and practice how you would handle each one. Tell yourself, "I will be able to handle whatever they throw at me" Be confident and relaxed.
Terms like, not a team player, unprofessional come to mind. Be prepared to defend your response. Practice, Practice Practice what you will say. and Good Luck you're not alone.
First you need to find out what the meeting is about. If it is about you, find out what HR has to say first. After listening to them, and if it is because of Sean, then instead of expressing your apprehension and distrust in Sean, you need to express why you are important to the company. If you leap to expressing the distrust and apprehension, they will definitely get rid of you because you will be a threat to the stability of the team environment (if there is one). By telling them how valuable you are to the company, you show your support, dedication, and what they would be losing if they fire you. It turns the tables. If you want to express your apprehension and distrust, I would do it by an anonimous letter to HR at a different time. Now if the meeting is about your feelings towards Sean, then you can express calmly and factually how he is as a co-worker and possibly a boss. If you don't trust him, simply state I do not trust him, I feel he is dishonest, as he has lied to me in the past. But only give factual information, and stay calm while expressing yourself. Good luck.
Please stay calm. Try to state your issue in terms of work and not directed at him. As well start off by saying, you have always done your best to work as a team. And you are willing to assist in any way to make this work because you want to continue working and like your job.
When asked what the problem is, then delve into some examples for instance instead of saying he lies. give an example, like he confirmed he could complete this on this date, and when you reminded him he again stated the date. But you received inforamtion that he was not going to do it. And on xyz date, a number of days later he did confirm that he couldn't do this. And this has happened on several occassions this year.
Do not say, you think he's trying to get you fired. What you could also try to propose is some things that may help...example if he truly can't do the work, I'd appreciate if he responded with that rather than waste time. Then I can at least make alternative plans
Also what can help, is try to imagine what he could possibly say so that you're prepared when he talks and are not surprised by it.
Initially co-workers that don't get along usually have different expectations and different ideas of how to work. Just remember you all want to keep your jobs otherwise you both wouldn't still be there, so try to find middle ground and get along.
Good luck.
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