Has anyone been BULLIED at work or singled out by manager?
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I just guess you have a strong opinion which is good.!.. but maybe not in the job you in right now.. don't know what age you are but that shouldn't make a difference.. theres work versus relation versus reality versus dreams versus meaning of live you can not always combine things .you see what I mean?.. Evan if you think or really want to combine all being bullied means they DO-NT KNOW or DO NT want to know cos its to complicated to scary (they might see themselves in the mirror.). work is a distraction but a necessary thing to make money and to be here in this world you are a consumer the world is made and driven on that make money making money.. you know you get more punished when you scam the tax man than when you commit a murder.. so that's shows the importance to things now in this world..(which is ridicules as you already know)..don't mix that with your true feelings put on a mask like everybody does and when its """"really needed show your true colours."""!..you Will know when that time comes! you not alone theres a million other people like you (and me)out there just waiting to come out but trust me u work isn't the place not the time and not the place to do SO.bless you X..
I've had them try. I lost a lot of good jobs because I would tell a boss in a second to stick it in hisass. I own my own business now, so it's not a problem any more.
I was bullied about working Saturdays.
asa part timer I was only paid at my normal hourly rate for Sarurday working although my full time colleagues were paid at time and a half.
In order to work Saturdays my chikldren needed childcare at a cost of £5 each child per hour. During my normal working hours my children were at school.
Alternatively ,y husbacnd coukld stay home from work to look after the children but he would loose £100 in overtime.
I informed my employer of this problem and they threatened to sack me. (Huge international bank)
In defense I resigned and informed them that i had sough advice from a solcitor and was taking my case to the european courts.
I was immediately given my job back with a no Saturday working clause to my contract.
I am not saying that you should resign but get advise from the internet-n citizens advice - solicitor etc and present a well informed, logical and intelligent argument to your employer and see what happens.
Just your question sends shudders down my spine. I've worked for a bully that would bring me into the office and slam the door so hard that his clock fell off the wall and then dress me down for something that I had no control over in another department. He had me so paranoid that I would work 18 hour days although my salary would only cover 8.
When I went to his manager and tried to address the issue with her, she afforded me 2 minutes of her time while in the bathroom. The answers I got from her were , " He never talks to me like that" and that I should "work smarter" both of which were totally useless. It became obvious that the bullying was trickling from down from above.
I was days away from resigning from a company that I had worked for 25 years when I got a miracle transfer to another branch. What a relief-here they treat me with dignity and respect.
In hindsight I have figured out a couple of things.
Document the actions and conversations in a journal on a daily basis.
Follow proper chain of command and document that.
Don't be afraid to call any employee assistance programs that your company might offer and document that.
If all else fails file an EEO complaint. You will probably be brought in for a mediation session in which the bullier will be exposed through your documents.
Remember that you have the right to be treated with dignity and respect at all times.
In my case, the bullier showed a pattern of always scapegoating a single employee, while building up the esteem of that employee's peers so that it seemed the whole office was against you. He picked on women first and when there were no women around he would pick a man as scapegoat. Job performance had nothing to do with it. He was basically an incompetent and nasty person who knew how to brown bag his superiors by showing he was doing something by discipline his underlings.
My heart goes out to you and I didn't mean to be so long but the thought of him got my ire up. BTW- the scumbag finally managed to have an on the job accident and will probably get paid for life. At least that is not my problem.
Yes, I have! And you really must do something about it. There is a law about bullying and harrassment. Firstly, try to speak to the manager calmly and politely about it. I dont know how he/she is bullying you, or how severe it is; but, if you can, ask them why they are treating you in this manner. You may just be very sensitive and it may be a case that they do not realise that you feel this way. If you cant face talking to your boss, then the union called A.C.A.S. are a very good source of help. They can advise you what to do. Their number can be found in the phone book. Please do not carry on like this, doing nothing about it. You are worth more than this. Maybe the job is not for you, and it would be better to find something else. But if you like the job that you are doing, then fight back, but do it positively, in the correct way with help and advice. Be assertive, and assert your right to be respected as a human being. Good luck my friend! :o)
i was sort of bullied at work because of my age and i was doing a modern apprentice. the manager took me on in knowing that i was only 16, the other staff in the shop all made me do the cleaning of the shop and making everyones tea/coffees as they couldnt be bothered to do it themselves. then when i turned 17 everyone i worked with apart from a lovely middle aged women were all bragging about going to london for the nightclubs and turned round and said to me "you cant come cos your too young and you dont look old enough but your fit boyfriend can come with us", i never felt so humilliated in my entire life. i put up with snide comments for nearly 2 years from lunn poly staff untill i finally compleated my nvq and i walked out on a very busy day and told them to get poked infront of whole shop, i told the manager what i thought of her, as she is a crap manager infront of customers. one customer came after me and said well done about time someone told her, this customer is well known where i used to live and i felt absolutly fab after she said that, i have since learnt from there NEVER WORK IN A WOMEN ONLY SHOP. you always get bullied for being youngest, not mature enough etc.
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