Am I pushy?
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Gail-
You should watch "The Devil Wears Prada" with Meryl Streep. Since you claimed earlier you were an active movie fan, this could help you understand how the man's world works.
I would say you're pushy but you have to be that way in the business world. So by all means, keep on pushin'!
are you in management? if so then i agree with you it is necessary to be strong
You can demand respect without bossing people around. I know plenty of people, even men, who are that way.
You need to chill out a little. It's annoying. Seriously.
Men and women do get it. You may have to learn to add some honey to your orders. I know things need to get done but you can use 'soft sell' measures. Unless you are actually in the military no one likes being ordered around. Direct them but then let them do it thier way. More details or an example of what is happening might help. If you get too may unhappy people they might decide it is time to get rid of the trouble maker. Who do you think that would be?
You have to do what you have to do at work! Maybe if it is alot of people saying this you could try wording things differently? Sometimes I come off wrong and here about it later from my family.
If it's been brought to your attention by more than one person then maybe you are.
There is a difference between assertive and aggressive. It is hard, especially for strong women, to find the balance. Too aggressive and you are perceived as being pushy or b*tchy. Not assertive enough, and you could get walked all over.
Watch your body language, and keep your tone level and pleasant. But hold your ground, and don't let people take advantage of you or question your authority.
Good luck!
don't change, otherwise people will not take you seriously
You sound sexist. What do you have against being a woman?
Just do your job and stop spending time picking on men.your statements provided a direct link to your attitude and your behavior.that is much more evidence then you presented coming from your co-workers.
Are you a woman boss. ? They usually feel they are to pushy, but your just doing your job. Someone has to do it, They feel this way toward women boss's. Be nice but be stern., they will follow. Pem
If you are a pushy women good for you. I am a push over. Be proud of yourself you can stand on your own two feet. Don't let what other people say affect you in anyway.
yes you are. omg you are a meany, live a little smile gosh!!
No one here can answer that question.
Find some coworkers or HR people to help you. Have them give you _specific_ examples of coming on too strong. Then don't get defensive about your actions, but consider them and decide if you could come up w/ other ways of resolving those issues.
Maybe there weren't other ways, and you weren't pushy. If so, then stay the course, but consider if you can change the style, if not the substance, of your actions.
Maybe there were other ways, and you are a bit too pushy. Decide what those better ways are, and work on training yourself to go that route next time a situation arises.
i have known some managers to be pushy and well an assholes and yes both male and female but you can be a good manager and also not be in the pushy category if your like a nice constructive criticism then the point will get a crossed and you wont seem like a jackass and also you will have done your job
I really kind of need some examples of what you do to see if you do come on too strong or not. Are you a manager or in charge of people? Your question is too vague to give a good answer.
You're right . if you're in charge you need everyone to know. a man would be admired for doing the same thing!!
Chances are, you wouldn't. Women as authoritative or strong figures in an office setting DO tend to be looked down upon. This is because people are more used to seeing males as the authority figures, leaders, and dominators when it comes to a business setting. This is because many of the qualities that are associated with doing well in a business setting are considered to be "masculine attributes". It's a societal misconception, and on a large part due to traditional gender roles. Women are expected to be maternal, caring, giving, loving, and nurturing at all times, and even when they're allowed into the workplace, they're expected to behave like that still, and to be pushovers that you come to for empathy or picking out the wallpaper for the office bathrooms. An assertive woman defies those roles, and is often stigmatized because of it.
These are all generalizations, keep in mind. Not everyone feels this way, or even means to feel this way if they do. Try talking with the people at work. Ask them why they feel you come on too strongly. Really give them a chance to offer their criticism, but ask that they keep it entirely constructive. Listen to them, and seriously ask yourself if they're right and you've crossed the line from business assertive to rude or rough assertive. Listen to everything they have to say, and then if you still disagree, you can talk to them about why you do what you do, and give your reasonings. Make sure you're not filtering out your anger at anything of what they said. If they say something rude or uncalled for in the explanation of what they see as your flaws, then make sure to let them know that at that point, rather than waiting for your rebuttal. Keep all of it constructive.
And bring some snacks. Everyone loves snacks!
Without specific examples of what people object to, it's hard to say. Being forceful in a business-like way is appropriate, being pushy is not. How can we tell which you're being?
It might not be what you say, but how you say it that they're objecting to. If your tone of voice conveys "You people are all idiots" then, yes, knock it off, if your tone conveys "Here are my reasons for advocating this plan" then, no, you're being appropriate.
Is it that you tell people who are not under your supervision what to do? That's pushy.
You can be strong and forceful without being rude. We have no way of knowing what you are.
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