How do you handle co-workers who stab you in the back?
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As a Human Resource professional, I can tell you this is certainly a tough one and has happened to us all. I have observed this dilemma handled many different ways.. here's my advice.
Confronting is certainly one way to handle this situation, but I've rarely seen this turn out effectively. Usually, this serves to place a larger wedge between the parties involved. Think how much you'll give them to "discuss" when you confront them. They'll be two little chatter boxes - and - you'll still be the odd one out. Besides, you can't let these backstabbers think you give a darn about their conversation and friendship.
Based on my experience and observations it's best to act like you barely notice their behavior. Adopt a professional stance with them. Greet them and keep going, be helpful as it relates to work - no more, no less. They will quickly observe that you have cooled off.
Being "unaffected" by their childish behavior will give you time to refocus your efforts on being a stellar performer and while they are still acting like children you're getting ahead on the job.
Professionalism wins. Leave the kiddies in the playground. You've got work to do.
Approach them separately and ask them "what's up". I can't stand people like that. Good luck!
If you think you are going to be stabbed in the back then your best choice is:
STAND NEXT TO THE WALL
Confronting them directly, in a non-defensive manner and tone, is the best way to go about it.
I would start keeping your relationship with them strictly professional and start looking for other friendly faces at work. Good luck.there is nothing worse than a lying, backstabbing co-worker.
I keep a 30-gallon trash can lid down the back of my shirt.
A metal one, not that flimsy Rubbermaid stuff. That won't even slow the knife down.
I'm sorry that this is happening to you because it's really awful. I've worked for many years, and I believe that it's a hazard of working in most environments, not all, but most. I believe that the best thing is to try to ignore it and maintain a distance. Several people who I know who are very successful in business told me recently just "not to care". But, I know that it's easier said than done.
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